Dear GodDaughter,

Now as you have started embracing the professional life with open hands, I would like to cite another piece of information which I think we need to start imbibing in ourselves.

I am sure there are surroundings which matter. They can either be good or bad. Let us acknowledge the good and be grateful to the universe.

Let us also take the irritants into stride and be aware, that is also because of these irritants that we are learning and challenging ourselves. It is that urge to prove that what I have on my mind is correct that takes the best out of us.

We only need to be careful here is that - it is the urge to prove and convince ourselves that we are right -should be the attitude. Not to prove someone wrong. We need to be open to the other view point too. Because there is no one single way of looking at things. And by acknowledging the other view point, we are only expanding our horizons, our knowledge & our thinking.

And while looking at the other perspective, if we see that there is merit in it, let us be graceful in accepting the same. Again, here we need to remember that the acceptance is only doing good to us. I say this since I have experienced it myself. Just since I had made a point, I have been adamant and tried to defend the same. Only when I was brooding on the same at a later stage is when I have realized that  yes, the other perspective does have merit. And if I do not go back and acknowledge, I am not sure what the other person feels, but I always carry the guilt feeling. Hence, as soon as I acknowledge the perspective, I am more open to the other angle and I feel relieved.

And let us accept most things are nor Black nor white. They are most of the times Gray. Hence if the other person does have a different view, it is not entirely wrong.

This is easier to accept when we are talking of independent incidents. It starts getting complicated once it is related to us personally. If it is related to the way the other person talks about me, how he / she interprets my views, my work, my behavior, it becomes all the more tricky. Because here my EGO comes in picture. And we are highly egoistic people. It hurts us. But we need to learn here is that it is perception that I have made about myself which is making the other person fell what he/ she is feeling. I agree or do not agree does not matter.

Does the perception or the view really matter, if it does not, well and good, I simply ignore. But if does, I need to work on this. What I have on my hand is, if I do not like the views, let me look back and see what has caused this perception. Can I explain, talk out or change my ways a little to ensure that for people who matter are not carrying a wrong impression. And there would still be a few impressions / perceptions that I may not be able to change. Let me be brave enough and carry enough conviction to stand by my convictions. But we need to really be sure on this and we have to ensure that we have given our bestest shot to talk over this.

I just hope what I have written here does make sense.

I am super excited that you have started enjoying your work and am sincerely waiting to see MY GodDaughter using the best of her potential and I am sure she will because as I always say....

It is only for MY GodDaughter to decide, the rest of the things just fall in place. And when she uses even a little of her skills and potential if she can make a huge difference, I just cannot imagine the WORLD of difference that your changed attitude would bring. JJJ

Wishing you the Most and More.... ALWAYS.

GodFather